Work life balance conversations mostly revolve around wellbeing or burnout, without addressing this: dealing with the guilt that comes from always letting others down.
To say yes to working late often means saying no to time spent with a loved one.
To fully enjoy your day off means enforcing boundaries with colleagues who normally rely on you.
This week I coached a business owner who admitted to struggling with work life balance. We talked through her work schedule and she was honest about the fact that she chose to work late every evening, instead of spending time with her husband.
She simply put the needs of her customers before her own. Which is not unusual for us to do.
As an intuitive coach, I hear words that are unspoken, more often than not. Throughout our one-hour session, I heard a heavy subtext of guilt, speaking louder to me than her own voice.
Unprocessed emotions like guilt get stored in your body, and over time, can lead to ill-health.
Also think about the quality of your relationships, if you always carry the guilt of making promises but not keeping them. Something as small as a choice to work late – even with the good intention to serve a customer – can have serious consequences, if you are not 100% honest about how you feel regarding that choice.
So please make sure you do something to address that guilt. And if I can support you with that, please get in touch right away. Through coaching I create a safe space to explore what’s not working for you, and how you can make it better. Plus, it’s completely confidential.